Lust For Life

This wasn’t the article I intended to post today, but lunch with a friend yesterday was quite interesting. She brought up the concept of lust. We discussed it. I also thought about it a lot after our meeting. It reverberated with me so much I got up early this morning to put my other article aside (next week) and hastily write this perspective on lust.

This isn’t a perspective on the sexual type of lust.  However, that’s where I’m starting.  Lust is, after all, most often thought of as purely sexual desire and often a sexual desire that is out of control, making it a titillating subject indeed. I, myself, have referred to people who abandon a spouse for a new lover as being in lust not in love. Lust is one of the seven sins. The Bible says lust is bad or bad for us if it replaces love. It also says we shouldn’t covet material objects belonging to another.

Looking for a definition outside my Biblical teachings, I found all reflect this one from Merriam-Webster.com: ‘a strong feeling of sexual desire; a strong desire for something.’ That last part is what my friend and I talked about mostly — other forms of lust. In between sips of chardonnay (it was a late lunch), we agreed, although we are aging, we still have a strong desire, a lust for something.

I call it a lust for life. A strong desire to continue living with zeal and fervor and excitement for what may materialize on our still glorious horizons.

If lust is a strong desire like a craving, we all crave things at one time or another. We may crave something as simple as ice cream or a long, hot bath.  We may crave a new car or trip to some far off place. Didn’t many of us have a strong desire to leave the work place and be free in retirement to do what we want with our time? We may crave hitting the road in our RV and kicking around the country for months on end. We may have a strong desire to help others. We may have a strong desire to volunteer, leave money to a charity or create a scholarship to help someone go to college. We may have a craving to reinvent ourselves in retirement and do something we always dreamed of doing. Our cravings, our desires, our lusting after something is not necessarily bad or bad for us.

We have been lusting all our lives. Remember that cute boy or girl sitting across from you in junior year English, the one who invaded your dreams at night? That was probably about the same time you were lusting after a drivers license and your first set of wheels. After that you went on to lust after a great many things. Perhaps the taste of your first adult beverage, a real job, promotions, your first house, a bigger house, a masters degree, a trip to Europe or India or the Fiji Islands. Lusting fired our engines, not just our loins.

When we are young, we lust after life with an eagerness to experience all that we can. We dream. We scheme. We plan. We have a boundless energy focused on the future we strongly desire, we crave, we lust after. We want to gorge ourselves on all that life has to offer — the physical, emotional, mental, spiritual — the entire smorgasbord.

I still feel this way to a certain extent. Oh, I’m a little jaded at times. I have my been there, done that moods. Yet, there are many, many things I want to do in life. I still crave some adventure, trying a new activity, meeting new people, seeing new vistas, straining my brain, pushing my physical boundaries, entering a spiritual dimension I’ve never explored.

Lust gets a bad rap. A little lust for life can be good for us, especially as we age.  In a cliche we are older and wiser.  We aren’t going totally off the deep end, over the cliff. We are a little jaded.  Grabbing the world by the shirttail and twirling it around to see what shakes out is good for us.

Even now, for me at 64, it’s a big wide world out there and it’s easier to access than ever before. There are opportunities waiting to be taken advantage of. There are surprises to be found. There are secrets to be unlocked. There are discoveries to be made. And, I intend to continue lusting after them with a lust for life.

10 comments on “Lust For Life

  1. Loved this blog. Yes, I lust for something. I am excited about any new skill, any new adventure (I learned to paddle board over some dire warnings about drowning). I rode a mule to the bottom of the Grand Canyon (5 hrs) last January and back up. For those of you who haven’t seen the trail or the sheer drops look online. It was exhilarating.

    And I admit I’m Kathy’s 72 year old lunch partner. I’m so flattered to have inspired Kathy.

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  2. Yes, yes, yes! Once again, you have well articulated how I feel. I too crave a new adventure, to push my boundaries, strain my brain, have new experiences. It’s intriguing that when I write that sentence, I also get a slight sense of fear, a twinge of guilt. Maybe it is my Catholic upbringing fighting against this lust for life. But there are opportunities to be taken, and just this morning I wrote in my journal a very cliched Just Do It!

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  3. This post really resonates with me too. I have spent the last 2 years bringing to life the lust for life that I buried while I focused on success and achievement. I love your blog, Kathy. We have much in common. I hope you’ll check out my blog at cindysmindfulretirement.wordpress.com

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  4. Hi Kathy!

    I subscribed to your blog a while ago and am rather enjoying it. Therefore I wondered if you’d like to look at mine! I’m a 62 year old artist and writer and renaissance soul and I’ve recovered from depression and anxiety after 30 years. I’m now making up for lost time. I think I’m doing ok…

    Jo UK http://www.joclutton.simplesite.com

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  5. Hello Kathy,

    This sounds just like I feel. The zest for life, for adventure, for new horizons, for stimulating experiences. New books, new authors, new friends, new ideas. The reinvention that follows retirement.

    Your blog is a place I come for inspiration along the new paths. Thank you for writing it.

    Honey Bee

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